An Effective Teacher Part 1 Wednesday, Feb 20 2008 

I am taking the Teaching Methodology class at AOU, and I am reading this book, “How to be an Effective Teacher: The First Days of School”. Although, the book is meant for ‘professional’ teachers and how to handle students/ in a school etc. I think every mother AND father should read this book. I learned so much from this book. Basically, the book is divided in 5 sections.

1. The Teacher: 3 characteristic of an ‘effective’ teacher

2. Positive Expectations: What are positive expectations and how should a teacher apply that to make students successful.

3. Classroom Management: (this is my favorite chapter) It discusses from discipling students, to keeping them busy, to applying rules and procedures (very nice explanations of how rules are different from ‘procedures’).

4. Lesson Mastery: how to design lesson plan, how to make sure that the lesson plan is ‘effective’ and how to help students with tests and exams.

5. The Professional: how it is important for a teacher to constantly learn and grow to become a ‘proessional’ educator.

After I am done reading the book, inshaAllah I will outline the main points from each chapter and post them here so mothers and others can benefit! 🙂

Anger Management: Short Story Big Lesson! Saturday, Feb 9 2008 

The Forbearance of Ali Ibn Hussain (radiaAllahu anhu)

Abdur Razzaq related that a slave girl who belonged to Ali ibn Hussain
(radiaAllahu anhu), was pouring water over him so that he could make ablution. But
the jug fell from her hand, landed on his face and fractured his bone.

He raised his head to her and she recited a part of the Qur’an’s verse:

“…Who repress anger…”

He said, “I have indeed controlled my anger”.

She then recited,

“…Who pardon men…”

He said, “May Allah forgive you”

She then recited the end of the verse,

“…Verily Allah love al-muhsineen (3:134)” (Al-muhsineen means the good
doers)

He said, “You are freed for the countenance of Allah”

MORAL:

We, human beings are error prone and faults happen often. It
is not befitting for a Muslim to be angry on every occasion he finds
fault. Allah is oft forgiving, and as a representative of Islam, we must
also restrain ourselves from blowing up at everyone, every time and try
to bear with patience.

…and Allah loves the patient.(3:146)

How to implement?

* Before lecturing your kids to restrain anger, present yourself
at the very best in this regard. Your children follow your
footsteps.

* Do not go around teaching others about this story and how to
implement it, rather, practice it and when questioned, present
references.

* Rather than having wall paintings / picture frames, use such
verses in your house, especially in your kids room, and let them
read it often, the more they get their attention to such verses,
the more their hearts will soften insha’Allah.

* As you would teach your children for salah, teach them other
Islamic morals like patience, and reward them as well.

* If your children / young siblings present the same verse to
you, when you are in anger, relax, do not retaliate, but make it a
lesson for you and others as well.

(Author Unknown)

Hellfire: Who Wants to be Saved? Friday, Feb 8 2008 

A very nice reminder by: Asma bint Shameem

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Al-Bayhaqi narrated that Abu Dharr RA said: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, what will save a person from Hellfire?”

He said, “Belief in Allah.”

I said, “O Messenger of Allah, are there are any deeds that should accompany that belief?”

He said, ‘He should give from that provision which Allah has granted him.”

I said, “O Messenger of Allah, what if he is poor and does not have anything to give?”

He said, “He should enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil.”

I said, “O Messenger of Allah, what if he cannot enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil?”

He said, “He should help the one who is helpless (i.e., has no skills and cannot earn a learning).”

I said, “What if he himself is helpless and cannot do anything?”

He said, “He should help one who has been wronged.”

I said, “What if he is weak and cannot help one who has been wronged?”

He said, “You do not want to think of your companion as having any good in him. Let him refrain from harming people.”

I said, “O Messenger of Allah, if he does that, will he enter Paradise?”

He said, “There is no believer who does not strive to acquire one of these characteristics, but I will take him by the hand and lead him into Paradise.” (Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Targheeb, 876)

Subhaan Allaah! What a beautiful reminder.

Sure, we see such beautiful reminders everywhere. Someone or the other sends us such emails almost every day.

But the big question is….

What do we do when we are reminded?

Who is it that will take heed of this reminder? Are YOU one of them?

“Has not the time come for the hearts of those who believe (in the Oneness of Allaah) to be affected by Allaah’s Reminder (this Qur’aan), and that which has been revealed of the truth…?” (Surah Hadeed: 16)

Why is Iblees Eager to Mislead Mankind Thursday, Feb 7 2008 

When Allah willed it for Iblees to stay alive until the Day of Resurrection, pride came back to Iblees once again and he sensed that this was an ideal way to take revenge from Adam and his offspring. He hates mankind, who are the children of Adam (alaihis-salaam), and he is hostile towards them because he is cursed and has been banished from the Mercy of Allah due to his refusal to prostrate to their father, Adam.

‘(Iblees) said (to Allah), ‘Because You have sent me astray, surely I will sit in wait against them (human beings) on Your Straight Path. Then I will come to them from before them and behind them, from their right and from their left, and You will not find most of them as thankful ones (i.e. they will not be dutiful to You).’ [(7): 16-17]

Ibn Abbas (radhi allahu anhu) commented on,

‘Then I will come to them from before them’: raising doubts in them concerning their Hereafter,

‘and (from) behind them’: making them more eager for this life,

‘from their right’: causing them confusion in the religion,

‘and from their left’: luring them to commit sins.’

This is meant to cover all paths of good and evil. Shaytan discourages the people from the path of good and lures them to the path of evil. Al-Hakam bin Abban said that Ikrimah narrated from Ibn Abbas concerning the Ayah,

‘Then I will come to them from before them and behind them, from their right and from their left,’

‘He did not say that he will come from above them, because the mercy descends from above.’

Iblees is certain that he is one of those who are doomed, and in addition to this, he is arrogant and ungrateful to his Lord, he thus, resolved to mislead whomever he could of the slaves of Allah. He is eager to mislead and corrupt, so as to increase the number of his followers to share in his fate. Iblees knows that his destination is the Fire, and he hopes to take everyone else with him to Hell, out of envy, hatred, Kufr and stubbornness.

‘Surely, Shaytan is an enemy to you, so take (treat) him as an enemy. He only invites his Hizb (followers) that they may become the dwellers of the blazing Fire.’ [Soorah al-Fatir (35): 6]

Imam Ibn Katheer writes, ‘he only wants to misguide you so that you will enter the blazing Fire with him.’

Seeking Refuge with Allah from the Lures of Shaytan from all Directions
Imam Ahmad narrated that Abdullah bin Umar said, ‘The Messenger of Allah (sallalalhu alaihi wa-sallam) used to often recite this supplication in the morning and when the night falls,

O Allah! I ask You for well-being in this life and the Hereafter. O Allah! I ask You for pardon and well-being in my religion, life, family and wealth. O Allah! Cover my errors and reassure me in times of difficulty. O Allah! Protect me from before me, from behind me, from my right, from my left and from above me. I seek refuge with Your greatness from being killed from below me.’ Waki commented (about being killed from below), ‘This refers to earthquakes.’ [Abu Dawood, An-Nisaee, Ibn Majah, Ibn Hibban and Al-Hakim collected this Hadeeth, and Al-Hakim said, ‘Its chain is Saheeh.’] [Quoted from Tafseer Ibn Katheer]

Taken from As-Sunnah Newsletter – http://www.qsep.com

 

An Interview with a Grandmother who Became a Hafidha Monday, Feb 4 2008 

MashaAllah it is truly inspiring to read how Umm Salih, the 82 year old grandmother, was motivated and how she worked hard regardless of being so old. In all honesty, after reading how she worked on her hifdh, I truly believe that everyone of us is capable of memorizing if we truly work hard and we ask Allah azzawjal to help us and open our hearts and minds to His Speech.

Just to motivate everyone, including and especially myself, just recently another grandmother finished memorizing Qur’an in Houston TX. She is not as old as Umm Salih but she also has grandchildren. She is Sister Henaa Gamal’s student and she used to drive from Clear Lake to North West Houston (which is raughly50 miles) to her teacher, mashaAllah ‘aliha. I might try to ‘interview’ her to find out how she got inspired and exactly how she memorized.

Enjoy the interview with Umm Saalih, a grandmother who became Hafidha (memorized the entire Qur’an) at Eighty-Two!

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Q1: “What was the reason that drove you to memorize the Qur’an after so many years?”

She said, “I always hoped to memorize the Qur’an from the time I was young. My father always used to invoke Allaah for me to become one of the memorizers of the Qur’an, like himself and like the elder brothers of my family who memorized it. So I memorized in the beginning about three parts and then after I completed the age of thirteen, I got married and became busy with the household and the children. After I had seven children, my husband died. They (the children) were all young so I took the time to raise them and educate them, and then after they grew up and got married, I had more time for myself. Therefore, the first thing I directed myself to focus upon was the Qur’an.

Q2: “Tell us about your journey with the Noble Qur’an.”

She said, “My younger daughter was going to high school and she was the closest of my children to me and the most beloved, because she stayed with me after her older sisters got married and got busy with their lives, and because she was a quiet girl, upright, loving, and good. In addition, she was interested in learning the Noble Qur’an, and her teachers encouraged her. Furthermore, she was very enthusiastic and always told me of many women who were driven by this great motivation to memorize the Qur’aan, and this is where I started.”

Q3: “Tell me about your way of memorization.”

She said, “We assigned ten verses (meaning her and her daughter who was going to high school). So each day after Asr, we used to sit together. She reads and I repeat after her three times. Then she explains the meaning to me, and after a while, she repeats that three times. On the next morning, she repeats them to me before she goes to school. She recorded also the recitations of Ash Shaykh al Husary, Rahimuhullaah, repeating each verse three times and thus I continued to listen most of the time. Therefore, the next day we would go to the next ten verses if my memorization was good. Otherwise, we would postpone taking additional verses until the day after. Moreover, we assigned the day of Friday to review the memorizations of the entire week. And this was the journey from the beginning.”

Then she said, “Over four years and a half, I memorized twelve juz according to the way I described to you. Then this young daughter got married. When her husband knew of our task concerning the memorization, he rented a house close to me, close to my house, so that he could allow the continuation of the memorization. In addition, he, May Allah reward him used to encourage us and sometimes sit with us listening, explaining and teaching. Then after three years of her marriage, my daughter got busy with the children and the household and our schedule was interrupted, but that did not make her give up. To the contrary, she sensed that my eagerness for the memorization was still established so she looked for a special good teacher to continue the journey under her supervision. So, I completed the memorization by the success of Allaah and my daughter is still working to finish the memorization of the Glorious Qur’an. She has a little left, In Shaa Allaah Ta’ala.

Q4: “This motivation of yours, did it have an effect on other women around you?”

She said, “It really had a good strong effect. My daughters and stepdaughters were all encouraged and worked on learning and teaching the Qur’an to their children and learning it themselves.

Q5: “After finishing the Noble Qur’an, don’t you think about working on memorizing hadith?”

She said, “Now I have memorized ninety hadith and Insha’Allaah I will continue the journey. I depend, in my memorization, upon the tapes and upon the Qur’an radio station. At the end of each week, my daughter comes and checks for me the memorization of three hadith, and I am trying now to memorize more.

Q6: “Over this period of memorization of the Qur’an, did your life change? Was it affected in one way or another?”

She said, “Yes, I went through a major change and I tried always, all praise is due to Allaah, to obey Allaah before I started the memorization. However, after I started the task of memorization, I began to feel a self-comfort, a great self-comfort and all worries began to move away from me. I even reached the stage of freeing myself from all these excessive worries concerning fearing for the children and their affairs, and my morale was boosted. I had a noble objective to work for and this is a great Nia’mah (Favor) from Allaah upon me, since we know that some women, when they get old and they do not have a husband, and their children got married, may be destroyed by the empty time, thoughts, worries, and so forth. But, Al Hamdulillaah, I didn’t go through this and I made myself busy with a great task and a great objective.

Q7: “Didn’t you think at one point, to join one of the circles focusing on teaching the Noble Qur’an?”

The answer was, “Yes, some of the women suggested this to me, but I am a woman who got used to staying at home, and I don’t like to go out everyday, and Al Hamdulillaah, my daughter sufficed me from all difficulty and I was so happy while I was learning from her. My daughter had set an example in goodness and righteousness which we rarely find in our days. She started this task and journey with me while she was an adolescent and this is a critical age many people complain of. She used to pressure herself so that she could have spare time to teach me, and she used to teach me with kindness and wisdom. Her husband was a good help to her and he exerted a lot of effort. I ask Allaah to give them success and to bring their children up on uprightness.”

Q8: “What do you say to a woman of your age who wishes to learn and memorize the Qur’an yet she is worried about it and feeling unable to?”

She said, “I say to her there their shall be no despair with the firm, sincere and truthful determination. Begin with sincerity, firm determination and dependence on Allaah at each time. And remember that at this age you should have the time for yourself. However, do not use your time to only go out or to sleep and so forth. Rather, busy yourself with righteous work.

Q9: “Now what would you say to a woman who is still young? What would you advise her?”

She, may Allaah preserve her, said: “Preserve Allaah and He will preserve you. Make use of the favor of Allaah bestowed upon you from health and ways and means of comfort. Use that to memorize the Book of Allaah. This is the light which enlivens your heart, your life and your grave after you die. And if you have a mother then exert the effort to teach her, and there is no better favor upon a mother than one of her righteous children aiding her to be close to Allaah.”

As Read by Dr. Saleh as Saleh

Originally published in Ad-Da’wah Magazine, no. 1552, 17th of Rabee’ Al-Awwal 1417.

www.alihsaan.org

WORSHIP IS OBEDIENCE WITHOUT QUESTIONING: Saturday, Feb 2 2008 

Ibadah means, ‘obedience and compliance of the creation to the Orders and Commands of the Creator.’ When Allah Commands us to pray five times a day, then Salaat here is Ibadah and obedience to Allah. Similarly, obedience to everything that He has commanded is worship and refusal to perform any of it is disobedience and road to Kufr (disbelief). So, we are obliged to carry out His Command and not ask questions as to why do we pray five times and why four rak’ahs or three rak’ahs? We obey His Orders even if we do not understand the wisdoms behind it because the reason behind the worship is that it is a Command of our Lord – Allah, the Exalted.

Mu’aathah said, ‘I asked Aishah, why must we make up the fasts missed due to our menstruation, and not the prayers?’ She said, ‘That was what the Messenger of Allah told us to do. We were ordered to make up the fasts and were ordered not to make up the prayers.’ [Fiqhus-Sunnah, (1.71A)]

Iblees rejected the Command of Allah and questioned His Wisdom when he said, ‘I am better than him [Adam], You created me from fire, and him You created from clay.’ [Soorah al-A’raf (7): 12]

This act is disobedience to Allah and Kufr (disbelief), and Allah tells us in the Qur’aan, ‘And (remember) when We said to the angels, ‘Prostrate yourselves before Adam.’ And they prostrated except Iblees, he refused and was proud and was one of the disbelievers (Kuffar).’ [Soorah al-Baqarah (2): 34]

Taken from As-Sunnah Newsletter – http://www.qsep.com

Ladies’ Man: Bilawal Bhutto! Friday, Feb 1 2008 

For long Imran Khan’s reputation has been played around with. An allegation was constantly used, without any sufficient proof, to disqualify him from being able to lead Pakistani people. Regardless of how much he has changed, his past is continued to be thrown at his face whenever needed!

If that standard is kept in mind, then I wonder what makes Bilawal Bhutto so different. The 19 year old is made the leader of the leading party of Pakistan, but what about running a check on his personal life??

This is from Daily Mail:

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His antics at Oxford University would shock people in Pakistan awaiting Bilawal Bhutto Zardari’s return to take over the political dream shaped by his murdered mother Benazir. The 19-year-old’s preparation for his role in one of the world’s strictest Muslim states has certainly been unconventional. Orthodox Muslims will be surprised to see the new leader of the Pakistani People’s Party with his arms slung casually around two girls, one of whom declares herself as “bisexual” on a social networking website. (more…)

When Tawakkal (Reliance) is Misplaced… Wednesday, Jan 30 2008 

The problem with certain Western Muslims is that they have put too much emphasis on their ‘brain power’ believing their finite brains can have infinite abilities to understand what is beyond any human intellect. Just on the contrary, the problem with Pakistani Muslims is that they have preserved their brains believing that the usage of this muscle may open their eyes to the reality of their situation and so they have managed to exist in—ignorance.

As much as I enjoyed my recent visit to Pakistan (with all the family and food!), I was quite disappointed to see how mass majority blindly trust the so-called ‘peers/faqeers’ and the high status they have among the people. I am not going to discuss the ‘theological’ wrong with this practice. If one wants to learn that then it is best to read Bilal Philp’s “Fundamentals of Tawheed” or better yet register in AlMaghrib’s course of Aqeedah 101 with Sh. Yasir Qadhi.

However, it must be realized that not only most of these ‘peers’ charge a fortune to write amulets (It is funny how they have an amulet for every problem that people approach them with), but many indulged in heinous crime of raping women—an obvious evil that comes out of an inherently wrong belief that the ‘peers’ have solution to every difficulty!

Let me outline the ‘difficulties’ most of these peers are approached with:

  1. Infertility or the desire to have a ‘son’: the woman goes to get a special ‘amulet’.
  2. A girl cannot seem to be getting married/ or refuses to get married to the one her parents wants her to marry, so her family believes that she is under a spell or possessed and she must be treated by an ‘amulet’.
  3. A wife cannot get along with her husband and in her effort to make her husband love her she tries to get the (guess again!) miraculous ‘amulet’!

Have these people ever heard of ‘DUA’! In all honesty, the people who approach these peers with this blind faith are not any less blameworthy for the evil that befalls them. However, my heart cries for those girls who are forced to go to these peers by their parents and end up becoming their toy.

This video below with no audio (for those who cannot read Urdu) is taken from GEO program ‘GUMNAM’ where an unknown man records these incidents with a hidden camera. Apparently the first lady was being treated for infertility and when no amulet worked out for her, she agreed with the “peer” to get inseminated by him!

The second girl, however, was forced to go to the “peer” by her mother who thought that the girl was possessed. This “peer” conveniently gets rid of the mother by telling her that he has to treat the girl alone, rapes her, and then threaten her to keep quite!

What is wrong with these people? Do they not fear Allah? They sit at the mausoleums claiming that they are the ‘closer’ ones to Allah…

May Allah azzawjal protect us from this fitan, and guide us all to what will truly bring us closer to Him.

What Everybody Has Done With PAKISTAN Wednesday, Jan 30 2008 

Quaid-E-Azam:

Islamic Republic Of Pakistan

Ayub Khan:

Developed Republic Of Pakistan

Bhutto:

Peoples Republic Of Pakistan

Yahya Khan:

What So Ever Divided By 2 Pakistan

Zia-Ul-Haq:

Klash-Un-kove(AK-47) Republic Of Pakistan

Ghulam Ishaq Khan:

ISI Republic Of Pakistan

Moeen Qureshi:

Taxation Republic Of Pakistan

Benazir Bhutto:

Zardari Republic Of Pakistan

Nawaz Sharif:

Abba Jee & Sons Republic Of Pakistan

Gen. Pervez Musharraf:

Pakistan (Pvt). Ltd.

People Of Pakistan:

Immigration From Pakistan

Author: Unknown

 

Trip to Pakistan Sunday, Jan 20 2008 

It’s been a while since I posted anything here. I’d been out of town, or actually out of the country!

I along with my family left for Pakistan right around the time when Benazir had died and apparently a chaos had broke out. However, when we arrived, situation was very calm in Lahore. People had pretty much retained their normal life. We all were jet lagged especially my little one. Then we got busy with my brother in law’s nikkah. It was nice and the kids had a lot of fun.

Light goes off a lot here. Sometimes there is no light for 7 hours! Sometimes the light was available only for a couple of hours in the whole day. People spend more money in buying generators and installing UPS systems in their homes to get electricity. I honestly believe that the amount of money they spend in getting all this, had they have put it all together and donate they can easily build a whole new dam!

Of course we are enjoying the maid-system here. I don’t have to do anything. I wake up and fresh breakfast is availble for me on the table. I don’t have to make my bed, clean, cook or do anything. Not only my laundry is done for me but the maids even iron and hang my clothes and even my kid’s!!

My favorite thing to do these days is to sit in the front yard (lawn) which is a part of the house within the boundaries, so i don’t have to wear my hijab there. We all sit there for hours and even eat and pray there. Of course, we are eating too much here and becoming lazy, but I think it is okay once in five years! 🙂

More later inshaAllah!

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