Tired of ECZEMA!! Thursday, Feb 28 2008 

 The following brochure is personally written by my daughter’s allergy specialist. My daughter severely suffered though eczema for almost 10 years. Then, by Allah’s Mercy, I found this doctor for her. Alhamdullilah, Allah has blessed him with much knowledge and experience in his field. He is the head of the research department of Allergy and Immunology at Alferd I. Dupont Hospital for Children. This brochure is very very useful for all those who know the pain of eczema, both for the child and the parents!

ATOPIC DERMATITIS 

What is it?

Atopic dermatitis is a chronic skin disease. It is not contagious, and cannot be passed from one person to another. “Atopic” refers to a group of diseases where one has an inherited tendency to develop allergic conditions, such as asthma or hay fever. “Dermatitis” means inflammation of the skin.

Eczema is a general term used to describe inflammation of the skin. Atopic dermatitis is the most common type of eczema. In atopic dermatitis, the skin becomes extremely itchy. Scratching leads to redness, swelling, cracking and weeping of clear fluid from the area. The skin ultimately crusts and scales.

What can you expect in future?

In most cases, there are periods of time when the disease is worse (called exacerbations of flares) followed by periods when the skin improves or clears up entirely (called remissions).

As some children with atopic dermatitis grow older, their skin disease improves or disappears altogether, but their skin may remain dry or easily irritated. In other children, atopic dermatitis continues to be a significant problem into adulthood.

How can we treat atopic Dermatitis?

There are two major goals in atopic dermatitis management:
1. Prevention of inflammation

2. Treatment of inflammation 

PREVENTION OF SKIN INFLAMMATION:

We need to prevent factors that lead to skin inflammation such as:

  • Strictly avoid any food to which you child is allergic. Also avoid any airborne allergen (pollen, dust) that he/she is allergic to.
  • Avoid a smoking environment.
  • Prevent skin dryness (see instructions below)
  • Prevent or immediately treat skin and other infections. Use bactroban on any broken skin, under the nails and around nostrils.
  • Avoid extreme hot or cold temperature, especially overheating since this causes sweating and may make the AD worse. (See Table 1)
  • Avoid flare-ups of asthma and seasonal allergies.
  • Prevent scratching (see Table 2)

TABLE 1: How to Avoid Overheating 

  1. Wear 1-2 thin layers of clothing only.
  2. Try to wear summer clothing throughout the year.
  3. Keep bed covers to a minimum (one sheet in summer, an extra cotton blanket in winter)
  4. Avoid heaters in the bedroom and keep the house cool (around 68 F)

TABLE 2: How to Prevent Scratching:

    • Be aware of the scratching. Keep a record in a diary/calendar of times and situations when this is the worst. Try to limit your exposure to such situations.
    • Change clothes as quickly as possible.
    • Control itching without damaging the skin by teaching your child to press a finger or thumb into the skin.
    • Keep their hands occupied while they are watching TV or changing clothes.
    • Never leave the child unsupervised in the first 4 days of a flare-up.
    • Remember to reward your child by praising him/her for not scratching their skin.
    • Never say “stop scratching”. All interventions should be positive.
    • If your child starts to scratch, try to actively distract him/her by talking and playing. This is most important after applying medicated creams. Play with you child intensively for next 10 minutes.
    • Night time scratching diminishes as scratching stops during the day.

Why skin dries so badly in Atopic Dermatitis?

Children with atopic dermatitis have increased water loss and decreased ability to bind water in their skin. This leads to skin stretching, which makes children want to scratch. Scratching causes further itching, dryness & damage to the skin. 

How can we Prevent Dry Skin?

The goal is to restore the water content of the skin and prevent further water loss.

  • This is achieved by:
    Daily lukewarm bath for 10-15 minutes (cleanses & moisturizes the skin).
  • Add 8 teaspoons of salt, baking soda or aveeno to the bath water. Keep the water out of the eyes.
  • Use mild, low acidity cleansers (like Cetaphil). Do not use cleansers or moisturizers with alcohol.
  • DO NOT allow the skin to become dry after bathing. Pat the skin lightly and gently with a towel. While the skin is still DAMP, immediately apply the moisturizer to avoid water loss. Aquaphor or Crisco are good initial choices.

How do I Apply the Moisturizer or Prescription Creams?

LIGHTLY: pressure or rubbing can stimulate further inflammation.

GENTLY: reddened, cracked skin is brittle and dry- DO NOT RUB.

THINLY: a thick layer can trap heat and cause inflammation

FREQUENTLY: emollients prevent dryness, not treat dryness.

Remember: apply medicated cream BEFORE the moisturizer (to seal the skin with the medicated cream) 

How often should my child be bathed?

DAILY!!

Bathing, followed immediately by applying moisturizers, not only helps reduce skin dryness, but also lowers the level of germs in the rash area. Bathing also allows you as a parent or caregiver to take a little time out from a busy day to inspect your child’s skin. Not to mention that bath time is a fun time to interact with your child. It may take some time to settle on a bathing routine that fits in with your schedule and to determine which moisturizers and medications work best. Be patient.

Remember, when you control the itch, it makes the eczema so much easier to manage!

What else should I Remember about Skin Care?

  • Avoid large containers of moisturizers. They can eventually harbor bacteria.
  • Use unscented, mild, liquid laundry detergent. Avoid ALL types of fabric softeners.
  • Rinse clothing and bedding twice to remove detergent residue.
  • Wash new clothes/beddings prior to using
  • Avoid irritants, such as smoke or heavy perfumes
  • Keep well hydrated- your child should drink water during the day, especially before and after exercise, or when experiencing a fever.
  • Use air conditioning in hot weather and keep your child indoors as much as possible to prevent sweating and the itchiness it causes.
  • Use sun screen
  • Avoid skin contact with rough materials such as wool and sand. The skin is very sensitive and reactive to these. Your child should wear soft, thin cotton materials. Do not wear wool if you are holding your child. Place a cotton diaper over your shoulder. You may notice that your child itches more after crawling around on a wool rug.
  • Saliva is the main irritant in childhood eczema. To avoid this irritation, regularly apply a thick moisturizer such as soft and liquid paraffin, especially before eating food. 

TREATMENT OF SKIN INFLAMMATION:

1.      Stop the Itch:

    • Itching is a vicious cycle that must be broken.
    • Scratching stimulates a type of cell in the skin called “Keratinocytes” that produces chemicals that causes FURTHER itching and inflammation. To break the cycle, skin must be restored to the texture of normal skin. (PREVENTION IS THE KEY!)
    • Anti-itch medication by mouth also help, like Atarax, Peractin or Benadryl.
    • Medications sometimes loose their effectiveness after 6-12 weeks of usage. If this occurs, rotate the medications for maximum benefit.
  1. Medicated Creams:
    Method of medicated cream application: Steroid creams should not be applied more than twice daily (only once a day for the newer preparations). Cover the area of eczema evenly with a fine film of ointment so that the surface of the skin glistens in the light. The amount to apply is in ‘fingertip units’. The amount of strong topical steroid applied on a small child should nto be more than 20g in a wekk. If more is used, the natural steroid production in the body will be suppressed. 

ATOPOIC DERMATITIS FLARE:
How is this treated?

3 level treatment:

1. Skin care as described above

2. Use of antibiotics by mouth or applied to the skin, as prescribed by the doctor.

3. Use of steroids prescribed by the doctor.

What About Follow-ups?

  • After the acute flare-up completely stops, continue with regular skin care measures along with low potency anti-inflammatory medication cream for some time.
  • Beware of relapses.
  • Recently healed chronic eczema remains unstable for several weeks.
  • Therefore, look at and feel the skin daily for

Itchiness

Dryness

Redness

Broken skin

  • When an acute flare-up is identified, consult doctor and treat IMMEDIATELY.
  • The sooner you begin aggressive treatment, the sooner the skin will heal and less steroid will be required.
  • As time progresses the skin becomes more stable.

 

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An Effective Teacher Part 2 Monday, Feb 25 2008 

“If you dare to teach, then you must dare to learn” this is how Harry Wong has summarized his book in just one sentence. His book is not a ‘plan’ or a ‘model’ but full of suggestions and experiences of other ‘successful’ teachers.

First chapter is about being an ‘effective teacher. Here is a brief summary:

Key Idea:

A. Your success during the school year will be determined by what you do on the first days of school. This day will either make you or break you!

B. Student achievement at the end of the year is directly related to the degree to which the teacher establishes good control of the classroom procedures in the very first week.

Effective & Efficient:
Being ‘efficient’ means to do things right.

Being ‘effective’ means to do the right thing consistently!

Four Stages of Teaching:
a.
Don’t fantasize that you are a ‘perfect’ teacher. This will close the doors on you of learning and improving.

b. Don’t ‘survive’ teaching. If you are not ‘enjoying’ it then quit!

c. Employ “effective” practices to achieve student success. Manage classroom, teach for mastery, and have high expectations. This can only happen by reading and relating to professionals.

d. Impact your students’ lives. Open the door of learning.

*Effective teachers Affect Lives*

The Effective Teacher:
1. Has positive expectations for students

2. Is an extremely good classroom manager

3. Knows how to design lessons for student mastery.

4. MAKES himself/herself do the things that unsuccessful people will not do.

5. Teaches students how to ‘think’.

6. Is adaptable and flexible

7. Listens

8. Understands how and why research is done.

9. Learns from others and seeks out mentor as a role model.

10. Has a goal of striving for excellence.

 

(The following is from Dr. Mamdouh Muhammad’s lectures for the same class):

FOUR MAJOR CHARACTERISTICS OF AN EFFECTIVE TEACHER

  1. Knowledge of a scholar
  2. Design of an engineer or the practice of a surgeon
  3. Attitude of a merciful parent
  4. Managing ability of a team leader or CEO

1. Knowledge
A teacher should be very qualified and have adequate knowledge to the degree of a ‘scholar’ depending on the area where s/he teaches or depending on the level of students, like high school students, or elementary school students.

Knowledge is crucial in teaching. If a teacher lacks knowledge of the content or the subject of his/her teaching, s/he will be perplexed when students ask and teacher is not able to answer.

However, even a very knowledgeable teacher can come across questions that s/he cannot answer, but a ‘knowledgeable’ teacher is able to handle the situation confidently, whereas a teacher who lacks knowledge lacks confidence too and this can lead the situation out of his her control. In other words, learning should be an ongoing process for a successful teacher.

Problem: Teachers don’t keep up with the new knowledge in their filed once they gain some experience.

2. Ability to Design an Effective Lesson Plan.

This design method is called ‘instructional designer’ or ‘instructional technology’.

How a teacher designs lessons will directly affect his/her teaching method.

Teacher needs to get the ability of how to design the lesson, starting form the goal and the skills that will be integrated, and the subject matter or content that will be presented, and the evaluation of how to evaluate and how students can benefit in ‘real’ life.This area needs a lot of hard work on a teacher’s part.

Designing is one part but practice is another issue. Design can be very well but in practice it may not work so teachers need to design and then practice to see if it works. In fact, one of the definitions of teacher is ‘knowledge carrier in action’. They need to see the knowledge acting and working in real situation in real classroom.

The other aspect is how to practice or how to present the lesson plan to the students.

Practice is different from designing and these two are totally different from knowledge.

Many teachers may have a lot of knowledge, very adequate for the level they teach at, but they cannot easily design a plan to present to their students. Or even if they are able to design they cannot practice it well. Sometimes other teachers work better in classes on their own better then those who actually develop the lesson plan.

An important advice: Steal and learn from other teachers how to apply knowledge and design lesson plan.

Practice, however, is another profession of a teacher. Knowledge is acquired when a teacher is studying at college or university. Designing can also be achieved there too. However, practice is from experience.

Practice also requires being skillful like a surgeon because they are in a more delicate situation then a surgeon! They are handling a human personality, a human brain and the minds of their students. These valuable human beings will be effected by whatever practice the teachers carry out during the teaching.

3. Attitude of a Merciful Parent:

This characteristic has nothing to do with 1 or 2 or practice.

Ø Teachers need the attitude of a loving, merciful, ambitious parent.

Ø The teachers need to be positive in every aspect, when they present the content, positive when they integrate the skill, positive when they comment on students, positive on the feed back on evaluation or assignments, positive on high expectations.

Ø One of the teachers’ jobs is to provide and prepare their students for the next level and do whatever is needed to take them from one academic level to a higher level. This requires teachers to realize and learn “Individual Differences”.

“Individual differences” is to remember that it is impossible in the whole world to find students of identical characteristics. Every student has specific needs, good and weak points.

So a teacher should not have ‘one’ standard level for all students. A good teacher is the one who mobilizes the abilities of a student and raise them higher then the current level that they are at. But if a teacher put one standard for all students, it means he/she is depriving important and good skillful advance students from learning more.

That’s why one of the more challenging situations is to deal with different level students and address their needs. This requires a lot of experience and there are many techniques that can be learned from other teachers.

Without the positive expectations, the skills of a student may not increase a lot which is a great loss not only for the school but for the whole nation in general because the teacher didn’t utilize all the potential of the students in the area that they were skillful at.

Ø Also, a teacher must be fair, academically and morally, with all students. Teachers must learn how to control their emotion and neutralize emotions when dealing with students regardless of their race, color, or nationality. Remember the Islamic principle: ‘be fair because this is the closest to piety’!

Ø Teacher must also be a helper and guide to each and every student.

4. Managing Ability:

Teacher must know how to manage and control the classroom like a team leader or a CEO of a company. If the teacher cannot manage the time and behavior of the students, s/he may not be able to fulfill the goals of the curriculum of the course.

To sum up about these four skills of an effective teacher, the teacher must have the patience to gain these skills, it doesn’t happen overnight. Kalmaza’ is referred to in Arabic to the skill of watching other teachers and learning from them their teaching skills.

An Effective Teacher Part 1 Wednesday, Feb 20 2008 

I am taking the Teaching Methodology class at AOU, and I am reading this book, “How to be an Effective Teacher: The First Days of School”. Although, the book is meant for ‘professional’ teachers and how to handle students/ in a school etc. I think every mother AND father should read this book. I learned so much from this book. Basically, the book is divided in 5 sections.

1. The Teacher: 3 characteristic of an ‘effective’ teacher

2. Positive Expectations: What are positive expectations and how should a teacher apply that to make students successful.

3. Classroom Management: (this is my favorite chapter) It discusses from discipling students, to keeping them busy, to applying rules and procedures (very nice explanations of how rules are different from ‘procedures’).

4. Lesson Mastery: how to design lesson plan, how to make sure that the lesson plan is ‘effective’ and how to help students with tests and exams.

5. The Professional: how it is important for a teacher to constantly learn and grow to become a ‘proessional’ educator.

After I am done reading the book, inshaAllah I will outline the main points from each chapter and post them here so mothers and others can benefit! 🙂

Anger Management: Short Story Big Lesson! Saturday, Feb 9 2008 

The Forbearance of Ali Ibn Hussain (radiaAllahu anhu)

Abdur Razzaq related that a slave girl who belonged to Ali ibn Hussain
(radiaAllahu anhu), was pouring water over him so that he could make ablution. But
the jug fell from her hand, landed on his face and fractured his bone.

He raised his head to her and she recited a part of the Qur’an’s verse:

“…Who repress anger…”

He said, “I have indeed controlled my anger”.

She then recited,

“…Who pardon men…”

He said, “May Allah forgive you”

She then recited the end of the verse,

“…Verily Allah love al-muhsineen (3:134)” (Al-muhsineen means the good
doers)

He said, “You are freed for the countenance of Allah”

MORAL:

We, human beings are error prone and faults happen often. It
is not befitting for a Muslim to be angry on every occasion he finds
fault. Allah is oft forgiving, and as a representative of Islam, we must
also restrain ourselves from blowing up at everyone, every time and try
to bear with patience.

…and Allah loves the patient.(3:146)

How to implement?

* Before lecturing your kids to restrain anger, present yourself
at the very best in this regard. Your children follow your
footsteps.

* Do not go around teaching others about this story and how to
implement it, rather, practice it and when questioned, present
references.

* Rather than having wall paintings / picture frames, use such
verses in your house, especially in your kids room, and let them
read it often, the more they get their attention to such verses,
the more their hearts will soften insha’Allah.

* As you would teach your children for salah, teach them other
Islamic morals like patience, and reward them as well.

* If your children / young siblings present the same verse to
you, when you are in anger, relax, do not retaliate, but make it a
lesson for you and others as well.

(Author Unknown)

Hellfire: Who Wants to be Saved? Friday, Feb 8 2008 

A very nice reminder by: Asma bint Shameem

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Al-Bayhaqi narrated that Abu Dharr RA said: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, what will save a person from Hellfire?”

He said, “Belief in Allah.”

I said, “O Messenger of Allah, are there are any deeds that should accompany that belief?”

He said, ‘He should give from that provision which Allah has granted him.”

I said, “O Messenger of Allah, what if he is poor and does not have anything to give?”

He said, “He should enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil.”

I said, “O Messenger of Allah, what if he cannot enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil?”

He said, “He should help the one who is helpless (i.e., has no skills and cannot earn a learning).”

I said, “What if he himself is helpless and cannot do anything?”

He said, “He should help one who has been wronged.”

I said, “What if he is weak and cannot help one who has been wronged?”

He said, “You do not want to think of your companion as having any good in him. Let him refrain from harming people.”

I said, “O Messenger of Allah, if he does that, will he enter Paradise?”

He said, “There is no believer who does not strive to acquire one of these characteristics, but I will take him by the hand and lead him into Paradise.” (Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Targheeb, 876)

Subhaan Allaah! What a beautiful reminder.

Sure, we see such beautiful reminders everywhere. Someone or the other sends us such emails almost every day.

But the big question is….

What do we do when we are reminded?

Who is it that will take heed of this reminder? Are YOU one of them?

“Has not the time come for the hearts of those who believe (in the Oneness of Allaah) to be affected by Allaah’s Reminder (this Qur’aan), and that which has been revealed of the truth…?” (Surah Hadeed: 16)

Why is Iblees Eager to Mislead Mankind Thursday, Feb 7 2008 

When Allah willed it for Iblees to stay alive until the Day of Resurrection, pride came back to Iblees once again and he sensed that this was an ideal way to take revenge from Adam and his offspring. He hates mankind, who are the children of Adam (alaihis-salaam), and he is hostile towards them because he is cursed and has been banished from the Mercy of Allah due to his refusal to prostrate to their father, Adam.

‘(Iblees) said (to Allah), ‘Because You have sent me astray, surely I will sit in wait against them (human beings) on Your Straight Path. Then I will come to them from before them and behind them, from their right and from their left, and You will not find most of them as thankful ones (i.e. they will not be dutiful to You).’ [(7): 16-17]

Ibn Abbas (radhi allahu anhu) commented on,

‘Then I will come to them from before them’: raising doubts in them concerning their Hereafter,

‘and (from) behind them’: making them more eager for this life,

‘from their right’: causing them confusion in the religion,

‘and from their left’: luring them to commit sins.’

This is meant to cover all paths of good and evil. Shaytan discourages the people from the path of good and lures them to the path of evil. Al-Hakam bin Abban said that Ikrimah narrated from Ibn Abbas concerning the Ayah,

‘Then I will come to them from before them and behind them, from their right and from their left,’

‘He did not say that he will come from above them, because the mercy descends from above.’

Iblees is certain that he is one of those who are doomed, and in addition to this, he is arrogant and ungrateful to his Lord, he thus, resolved to mislead whomever he could of the slaves of Allah. He is eager to mislead and corrupt, so as to increase the number of his followers to share in his fate. Iblees knows that his destination is the Fire, and he hopes to take everyone else with him to Hell, out of envy, hatred, Kufr and stubbornness.

‘Surely, Shaytan is an enemy to you, so take (treat) him as an enemy. He only invites his Hizb (followers) that they may become the dwellers of the blazing Fire.’ [Soorah al-Fatir (35): 6]

Imam Ibn Katheer writes, ‘he only wants to misguide you so that you will enter the blazing Fire with him.’

Seeking Refuge with Allah from the Lures of Shaytan from all Directions
Imam Ahmad narrated that Abdullah bin Umar said, ‘The Messenger of Allah (sallalalhu alaihi wa-sallam) used to often recite this supplication in the morning and when the night falls,

O Allah! I ask You for well-being in this life and the Hereafter. O Allah! I ask You for pardon and well-being in my religion, life, family and wealth. O Allah! Cover my errors and reassure me in times of difficulty. O Allah! Protect me from before me, from behind me, from my right, from my left and from above me. I seek refuge with Your greatness from being killed from below me.’ Waki commented (about being killed from below), ‘This refers to earthquakes.’ [Abu Dawood, An-Nisaee, Ibn Majah, Ibn Hibban and Al-Hakim collected this Hadeeth, and Al-Hakim said, ‘Its chain is Saheeh.’] [Quoted from Tafseer Ibn Katheer]

Taken from As-Sunnah Newsletter – http://www.qsep.com

 

An Interview with a Grandmother who Became a Hafidha Monday, Feb 4 2008 

MashaAllah it is truly inspiring to read how Umm Salih, the 82 year old grandmother, was motivated and how she worked hard regardless of being so old. In all honesty, after reading how she worked on her hifdh, I truly believe that everyone of us is capable of memorizing if we truly work hard and we ask Allah azzawjal to help us and open our hearts and minds to His Speech.

Just to motivate everyone, including and especially myself, just recently another grandmother finished memorizing Qur’an in Houston TX. She is not as old as Umm Salih but she also has grandchildren. She is Sister Henaa Gamal’s student and she used to drive from Clear Lake to North West Houston (which is raughly50 miles) to her teacher, mashaAllah ‘aliha. I might try to ‘interview’ her to find out how she got inspired and exactly how she memorized.

Enjoy the interview with Umm Saalih, a grandmother who became Hafidha (memorized the entire Qur’an) at Eighty-Two!

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Q1: “What was the reason that drove you to memorize the Qur’an after so many years?”

She said, “I always hoped to memorize the Qur’an from the time I was young. My father always used to invoke Allaah for me to become one of the memorizers of the Qur’an, like himself and like the elder brothers of my family who memorized it. So I memorized in the beginning about three parts and then after I completed the age of thirteen, I got married and became busy with the household and the children. After I had seven children, my husband died. They (the children) were all young so I took the time to raise them and educate them, and then after they grew up and got married, I had more time for myself. Therefore, the first thing I directed myself to focus upon was the Qur’an.

Q2: “Tell us about your journey with the Noble Qur’an.”

She said, “My younger daughter was going to high school and she was the closest of my children to me and the most beloved, because she stayed with me after her older sisters got married and got busy with their lives, and because she was a quiet girl, upright, loving, and good. In addition, she was interested in learning the Noble Qur’an, and her teachers encouraged her. Furthermore, she was very enthusiastic and always told me of many women who were driven by this great motivation to memorize the Qur’aan, and this is where I started.”

Q3: “Tell me about your way of memorization.”

She said, “We assigned ten verses (meaning her and her daughter who was going to high school). So each day after Asr, we used to sit together. She reads and I repeat after her three times. Then she explains the meaning to me, and after a while, she repeats that three times. On the next morning, she repeats them to me before she goes to school. She recorded also the recitations of Ash Shaykh al Husary, Rahimuhullaah, repeating each verse three times and thus I continued to listen most of the time. Therefore, the next day we would go to the next ten verses if my memorization was good. Otherwise, we would postpone taking additional verses until the day after. Moreover, we assigned the day of Friday to review the memorizations of the entire week. And this was the journey from the beginning.”

Then she said, “Over four years and a half, I memorized twelve juz according to the way I described to you. Then this young daughter got married. When her husband knew of our task concerning the memorization, he rented a house close to me, close to my house, so that he could allow the continuation of the memorization. In addition, he, May Allah reward him used to encourage us and sometimes sit with us listening, explaining and teaching. Then after three years of her marriage, my daughter got busy with the children and the household and our schedule was interrupted, but that did not make her give up. To the contrary, she sensed that my eagerness for the memorization was still established so she looked for a special good teacher to continue the journey under her supervision. So, I completed the memorization by the success of Allaah and my daughter is still working to finish the memorization of the Glorious Qur’an. She has a little left, In Shaa Allaah Ta’ala.

Q4: “This motivation of yours, did it have an effect on other women around you?”

She said, “It really had a good strong effect. My daughters and stepdaughters were all encouraged and worked on learning and teaching the Qur’an to their children and learning it themselves.

Q5: “After finishing the Noble Qur’an, don’t you think about working on memorizing hadith?”

She said, “Now I have memorized ninety hadith and Insha’Allaah I will continue the journey. I depend, in my memorization, upon the tapes and upon the Qur’an radio station. At the end of each week, my daughter comes and checks for me the memorization of three hadith, and I am trying now to memorize more.

Q6: “Over this period of memorization of the Qur’an, did your life change? Was it affected in one way or another?”

She said, “Yes, I went through a major change and I tried always, all praise is due to Allaah, to obey Allaah before I started the memorization. However, after I started the task of memorization, I began to feel a self-comfort, a great self-comfort and all worries began to move away from me. I even reached the stage of freeing myself from all these excessive worries concerning fearing for the children and their affairs, and my morale was boosted. I had a noble objective to work for and this is a great Nia’mah (Favor) from Allaah upon me, since we know that some women, when they get old and they do not have a husband, and their children got married, may be destroyed by the empty time, thoughts, worries, and so forth. But, Al Hamdulillaah, I didn’t go through this and I made myself busy with a great task and a great objective.

Q7: “Didn’t you think at one point, to join one of the circles focusing on teaching the Noble Qur’an?”

The answer was, “Yes, some of the women suggested this to me, but I am a woman who got used to staying at home, and I don’t like to go out everyday, and Al Hamdulillaah, my daughter sufficed me from all difficulty and I was so happy while I was learning from her. My daughter had set an example in goodness and righteousness which we rarely find in our days. She started this task and journey with me while she was an adolescent and this is a critical age many people complain of. She used to pressure herself so that she could have spare time to teach me, and she used to teach me with kindness and wisdom. Her husband was a good help to her and he exerted a lot of effort. I ask Allaah to give them success and to bring their children up on uprightness.”

Q8: “What do you say to a woman of your age who wishes to learn and memorize the Qur’an yet she is worried about it and feeling unable to?”

She said, “I say to her there their shall be no despair with the firm, sincere and truthful determination. Begin with sincerity, firm determination and dependence on Allaah at each time. And remember that at this age you should have the time for yourself. However, do not use your time to only go out or to sleep and so forth. Rather, busy yourself with righteous work.

Q9: “Now what would you say to a woman who is still young? What would you advise her?”

She, may Allaah preserve her, said: “Preserve Allaah and He will preserve you. Make use of the favor of Allaah bestowed upon you from health and ways and means of comfort. Use that to memorize the Book of Allaah. This is the light which enlivens your heart, your life and your grave after you die. And if you have a mother then exert the effort to teach her, and there is no better favor upon a mother than one of her righteous children aiding her to be close to Allaah.”

As Read by Dr. Saleh as Saleh

Originally published in Ad-Da’wah Magazine, no. 1552, 17th of Rabee’ Al-Awwal 1417.

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WORSHIP IS OBEDIENCE WITHOUT QUESTIONING: Saturday, Feb 2 2008 

Ibadah means, ‘obedience and compliance of the creation to the Orders and Commands of the Creator.’ When Allah Commands us to pray five times a day, then Salaat here is Ibadah and obedience to Allah. Similarly, obedience to everything that He has commanded is worship and refusal to perform any of it is disobedience and road to Kufr (disbelief). So, we are obliged to carry out His Command and not ask questions as to why do we pray five times and why four rak’ahs or three rak’ahs? We obey His Orders even if we do not understand the wisdoms behind it because the reason behind the worship is that it is a Command of our Lord – Allah, the Exalted.

Mu’aathah said, ‘I asked Aishah, why must we make up the fasts missed due to our menstruation, and not the prayers?’ She said, ‘That was what the Messenger of Allah told us to do. We were ordered to make up the fasts and were ordered not to make up the prayers.’ [Fiqhus-Sunnah, (1.71A)]

Iblees rejected the Command of Allah and questioned His Wisdom when he said, ‘I am better than him [Adam], You created me from fire, and him You created from clay.’ [Soorah al-A’raf (7): 12]

This act is disobedience to Allah and Kufr (disbelief), and Allah tells us in the Qur’aan, ‘And (remember) when We said to the angels, ‘Prostrate yourselves before Adam.’ And they prostrated except Iblees, he refused and was proud and was one of the disbelievers (Kuffar).’ [Soorah al-Baqarah (2): 34]

Taken from As-Sunnah Newsletter – http://www.qsep.com

Ladies’ Man: Bilawal Bhutto! Friday, Feb 1 2008 

For long Imran Khan’s reputation has been played around with. An allegation was constantly used, without any sufficient proof, to disqualify him from being able to lead Pakistani people. Regardless of how much he has changed, his past is continued to be thrown at his face whenever needed!

If that standard is kept in mind, then I wonder what makes Bilawal Bhutto so different. The 19 year old is made the leader of the leading party of Pakistan, but what about running a check on his personal life??

This is from Daily Mail:

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His antics at Oxford University would shock people in Pakistan awaiting Bilawal Bhutto Zardari’s return to take over the political dream shaped by his murdered mother Benazir. The 19-year-old’s preparation for his role in one of the world’s strictest Muslim states has certainly been unconventional. Orthodox Muslims will be surprised to see the new leader of the Pakistani People’s Party with his arms slung casually around two girls, one of whom declares herself as “bisexual” on a social networking website. (more…)