I home school my two children, my daughter who is now 9 and my son who is 6. I am not sure exactly what I had in mind when I started it (I can’t recall…it’s been a while now). Public school was never an option. Islamic schools, yes that could have been a possibility, but I was not completely satisfied with the academic standard back then with the schools that were available in my area. Secondly, it was about half an hour away from my house.
It was around the same time when I was judging the options of enrolling my daughter at an Islamic school, my husband suggested to concentrate on our daughter’s Qur’an memorization. So my focus got diverted and I decided to home school her.
As we went along, I realized that although it is a very stressful task, it is worth the time and effort. I appreciated the fact that it was a way of providing good educational material—Islamic and secular, and ‘safe’ environment, etc.
I must admit that there are cons too, but I believe that cons are over weighed by the pros, especially living here in US.
However, I just moved recently. I am not very familiar with my community, so I don’t know how much people appreciate home schooling here. In any case, I was invited at a dinner one day (all Pakistani gathering), and some older aunties (ladies) criticized home schooling right in front of me. Her comments included something to the effect, “Those who keep their children at home, didn’t they go to school themselves? Isn’t it hypocritical that they get to go to school but they deprive their children from it?!!!”
She was much older then me, so I didn’t say anything. But there were others who started talking to her. But I felt so bad that my mind, sort of, numbed out and I couldn’t make out any words what others were saying. I had never heard such harsh comments from anyone before. There were others, who had pointed out discipline, or anti-social, or communication, or lack of physical activities problems etc. with home schooled children, but not what she said!
i agree to some extent
children need sense out outside world and its better to introduce them and have them adapt to it now while they are still in your control vs. later
i say islamic school if your worried about islam
weighed with the other alternative of public school, regardless of standards your def. making a wise choice
Assalaamu Alaykum Umm Reem,
First of all I wanted to ask, where did you move to?????
Second of all, I have to tell you I am teaching high school mathematics grades 9-12 in the public schools and trust me the environment is BAD! I was born and raised here, went through the public school system, and I would like to think I turned out “ok”.. so I used to say I would consider sending my kids to public schools.. but after this experience, the behavior issues, the disrespect, the amount of mixing, I pray that my students DON’T go there.
As far as being hypocrtical..Subhana Allah, what a thing to say. Is it hypocritical to instil better qualities in our children? The people before the Prophet (S) came along were living like animals! Can we sit here and assume that after they became such PIOUS believers, they let their children err in the same way? Of course not!
The way I see it, we have to step forward and do the best that we can raising our kids because we will of assurity be questioned by Allah about it. If you can find a good Islamic School, send your kids there. And even with that we have to be careful.. i know several which are just like public schools, so then theres very little advantage. If the only way is to homeschool them, do that, try to get others involved so your children have a good social upbringing as well.
If we go back to the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet (S), we will see the modes of learning then were not LESS than those today, we should try and model our teaching style to that of the Prophet (s).
That’s what I think.. hypocritical is limiting the progress of something because of your own inhibitions..who cares if you did it, if you think there is something wrong then you CANNOT let your kids be a part of it…THAT is the Prophet’s (S) sunnah, when you see a wrong, CORRECT IT!
Wassalaamu Alaykum
Hina
For starters lets define what a hypocrite is. It is a person who puts on a false appearance of virtue or religion or a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings.
This older woman doesn’t have any idea what she is talking about because one your not contradicting what you believe or feel and your not homeschooling your kids so people think your some super religious person or what not.
I don’t think you should take it so harshly that she called you a hypocrite or anyone that homeschool’s their kids a hypocrite. Whatever schooling you went through whether it was public, or islamic,number one you didn’t choose it your parents choose it for you and secondly you obviously know how those schools are like and do not want your kids to even turn out like that.
This woman probably went to school 40 years ago in some small town in Pakistan with all girls where they were beat with a stick if they didn’t do their homework and doesn’t know what its like in Public schools today and they haven’t the slightest idea what goes on in Islamic schools. I don’t even think parents of Islamic school kids know what goes on their, only the teachers do, and speaking from experience I know what goes on in public and islamic schools and i wish that I had been home schooled.
Also, take into consideration that when your doing something right people are going to say things to you left and right thats shaitans way of wanting you to stop doing what your doing. So in someways the more criticism you get know that your doing an awesome job.
Also, your kids are awesome. They are far from anti-social and they know how to communicate, and they are probably a lot more physically active then most kids today anyways.
Realize that the type of parents and mothers that will say things to you are probably jealous that you have the energy and time to take care of your kids, homeschool them, have time for your housework, your husband and all the other activities that you are involved in. Most mothers can’t wait to get their kids out of the house so they can have a few hours to themselves.
Maybe your children may want to go to public/islamic school with other kids but chances are they will end up thanking you down the road when they realize that they really didn’t miss out on much. Also, they will probably be their for you when you need them and realize how much you did for and how much time and effort you placed into raising them and they will value that and always respect you for it. Unlike many muslim children who don’t even speak to their parents or if they do they are very rude and mean to their parents.
The mother is the key factor in how a child is to be raised. I think you’ve done an excellent job so far, how many mothers can say their daughter memorized the Qur’an by age 7? Not many…not many have even taught their kids to read it properly by age 7.
Sorry this is so long. But just ignore what others have to say and don’t let it stop you from doing whats best for your children.
Anonymous, JazakAllah khiar for such kind words. It was definitely very uplifting.
Hina, I moved to Newark, DE. I have not talked to you in centuries. JazakALlah khair for visiting my blog and kind words.
Fariha, nice to hear from u
I agree, children need to sense the outside world, but I think that can be done in a limited way while being monitored by their parents. I perceive it in a rahter different way. I believe that in this young age, while they are growing (aruond first 10years), it is time to build their foundation. And it should be done in a wise way without putting them through strong challanges of having to face two ENTIRELY different evoirenments. Once they have developed a strong personality (inshaAllah) then they can be exposed outside.
-Umm Reem
As-salamu ‘alaykum,
I totally agree with what Anonymous said
As someone who knows your family personally I think you’re doing a wonderful job. May Allah put barakah in whatever you do Ameen. I remember in the last friday class you mentioned about the majority of people “And if you obey most of those in the earth, they will lead you astray from Allah’s way…” (6:116)
If you know in your heart that you’re doing the right thing be firm and Insha’Allah it’ll bear fruits and from what I’ve seen it already has Alhamduilah. I know this community isn’t supportive as it should be, maybe because this idea is alien to them. Insha’Allah when they actually get to know you and your family they’ll see the positive results and this will change their thinking and maybe others will follow suit. Here’s an article that might be of interest to you: http://www.hahmed.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-neglected-imperative-creating-geographic-proximity/
Fee Amaanillah Ameen
Nice Blog!!
Yes I do believe that sister doesn’t know what its like in schools today, also what is like raising a child in a non-Muslim country. Still that was a pretty harsh comment. I guess you just have to show how well you kids are doing homeschooling. I really just think people don’t realize what homeschoolers do, that they often have more outside activities than schooled children because their schedule is flexible. Ultimately its up to you the parent. Personally I think homeschooling is the best, but I know not everyone has the temperament to do it, but no matter what you choose, you have to be completely involved in your child’s education.
Assalamu’Alaikum,
I love that you homeschool!
Any parent who takes charge and become involved in the education process through and through is dedicated,to say the least.
Its not that homeschool parents think they can do so much better then institutionalized education, but they for sure can’t do worse.
Every parent wants thier children to have opprotunities that they did not have. If you feel that HSing is your best option, how is that hypocritical.
You gotta know you are doing a great job. Just look at your kids. They are beautiful & intelligent.
I hope ya’ll are doing fine in Newark, insha’allah.
JazakAllah khair Tanzila. THat was nice. By the way, readers, Tanzila is not Reem’s ‘official’ teacher
Annette: It was sooo nice to hear from you. How are kids and how is homeschooling with them? Maybe we can transfer this thread in sharing homeschooling tips!
Assalamu’alaikum Umm Reem
Do not be disheartened by what people said about home schooling. I agreed with what Sister Hina and anonymous said, if the environment is surrounded by so many Shayateen, you certainly do not wish to harm your kids there in public school. Being a grandma myself, I am very concerned with youngsters nowadays. They are most of the time very rude and disrespectful. At the age of seven, they know more about Elmo, silly songs on ipods, kuffar’s culture than knowing how to do Wudu’, never mind memorizing one simple Surat or know how to pray.
However, I have also heard some who opted for home schooling, didn’t really know what they were doing either. The kids turned out a bunch of lazy teenagers. All they did was sleep late and watch TV. There was no structure and discipline in their life.
I have also met some very wonderful sisters that they themselves went to public school and they turned out ok Alhamdulillah. However, when asked, they’d prefer NOT to have gone to public school. They said, “too much trial”.
Unless, you know what you are doing, home schooling is the best option to choose. Sheikh Muhammad Al Shareef gave a beautiful Kutbah on this subject of schooling.
http://www.khutbah.com/index.php?type=5&id=564&language=8
The bottom line is that parents have the responsibilities to educate their children the way that pleases Allah. “You are the shepherd of your family….”
Khawla
sorry I meant to say, Tanzila is NOW reem’s official teacher…
Dear Khawla, JazakAllah khair.
Homeschooling does require a lot of self discipline and it will not work out if a mother is not organized.
I had to change a LOT of bad habits and still am changing. I do slip away once every here and there, lose track of time, get on the net and waste their time etc. etc.
My children, I’m sure are not the most well-discplined children either
ANd it maybe becuase I am not consistent in correcting them and, ofcourse, since I’m their mother they are used to nagging and getting away with issues.
But then again, I’m willing to compromise this then challanging the validity of their religion in their little minds.
I think home schooling ROCKS! I went to public schools all my life and mannnnn…i seriously cannot thank Allah enough for allowing me to turn out the way i did- especially all those fitnah positions i had been put into during high school.
I remember a shykh once saying that, our parents- grandparents.. they are only residing here but not really living here- we have to keep that in mind when dealing resoectsully with the elders…
and Allah Jalo Jalalahu Knows Best!
As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatuAllah,
MashaAllah great blog sister UmmReem!
About homeschooling, coming from the perspective of someone who’s been attending public schools my whole life and whose currently in a public high school, mashaAllah I think you’ve made a wise decision.
Honestly, it is extremely hard NOT to be influenced by all the bad things that go around in school and it is a severe test of one’s eeman. I have seen very good Muslimahs turn around because of school because of all this pop culture presented to them, etc. Of course there are exceptions where the parents did an awesome job raising the children and the home environment is exceptional and very Islamic and the kids come out like shining stars, many times it is not the case. Also, one shouldn’t think only going to an Islamic school/homeschooling will make their kids very into the deen, etc. Rather, it’s the example of the parents and the home environment which ultimately molds the children.
LOL I am 2nd generation desi as well and I agree with anonymous about that Anti’s comments. All too often, many ‘anti’s’ and ‘uncles’ that come from a South Asian background care only about social advancement in society and ‘status’, ie. “being a doctor” and having a big house. So please disgregard those comments and thank Allah that He has blessed you and your husband with the eeman and taqwa to raise your kids so well, mashaAllah!!
It is an inspiration for me to hear that you helped your daughter memorize the Qur’an at age 7 and I hope inshaAllah I will be able to do the same with my future kids as well.
May Allah guide us all and our families.
As Allah says in the Qur’an in surah Tahreem: “O you who believe, save yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones..” May Allah save us, ameen.
sincerely,
a sister in Islam
Sister Umm Reem, are you the sister on Bro. Muhammad AlShareef’s website whose daughter memorized the Quran at seven?
Um Abdullah: What website?
Oh, its here
http://www.powerworkshops.org
there was a story about a sister whose daughter memorized the whole Quran at seven. Sorry thought it was you:)
As-salaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatu,
Homeschooling is NOT hypocritical at all! I’ve been homeschooling since grade 5, and I have to say that I like it a lot better than public school (which I was attending previously). Academically, I find it works better for me – since I do better in English than in Math, I can do my English really quickly and then take longer to focus on and improve on my Math; and socially I like it better too. At school I was always somewhat of a loner, and I didn’t really like the other kids and what they were into at the time.
Through homeschooling, I *am* somewhat socially isolated compared to other kids my age (especially since we moved to new city even smaller than my old one!)… but I don’t mind so much. I have a small group of friends from my old city whom I email regularly, and every weekday evening I help my father out at the Madrasah, so I get to hang out with the other girls (even though they’re all younger than me).
Anyway, I’ve learnt far more through homeschooling than I would’ve through public school…
So, I don’t think you should pay any mind to what others say – as long as you know that you’re doing it for the right reasons, and that your kids are benefiting from it far more than they could in public school (or even a Muslim school), then al-Hamdulillaah!
Your little sister in Islam,
Mouse
assalaamu alaykum
homeschooling allows you to ensure that your child’s socialization is in a healthy, positive environment.
i went to american schools from 1-12 and it definitely had a negative impact on my manners and my tongue. although there is more opportunity to interact and socialize, only a limited portion of that socialization is positive.
many of us don’t realize but alot of muslim kids in public schools actually end up as closet atheists and things like that. so any downsides to homeschooling are definitely outweighed by the positives.
most importantly, you have given your daughter something more precious than anything any school would have given her (public or islamic): memorizing the Qur’an… there is no comparison, ma sha Allah
Anonymouse, I will have to get some tips from you! I am using K12 for my daughter right now and it seems good.
Islamicscience, if only people can understand whatyou said about downsides of homeschooling outweighed by the positives, especially when family members criticise homeschooling and keep pointing out the downsides. It gets frustrating but alhamdullialh not to the point where i actually think of putting them in school.
Assalaamu alaikum UmmReem,
I am so glad you are homeschooling and blogging about it. My daughter is almost 6 and when I read about Reem completing Quraan memorization I knew I had to ask you the details. First of all my duas with you and your children and may Allah always protect them and let them be role models for other kids.
Now for the questions, please give us some details as to how you went about it. How many hours, how did you schedule review, what aids did you use? The most amazing thing is if it’s doable without a formal teacher…and finally what are you doing with your kids after they have finished the Quraan for Arabic and Islamic studies.
If you feel uncomfortable to answer all this on the blog then please email me
JazakiAllahu Khairan
Your Sister
Umm Aasiyah
assalamu alaikum warahmatULLahi wabarakatuhu Umm Reem
jazak Allahu khairan for sending me the link to your blog. very interesting and informative masha’Allah, and definitely a lot of work! may Allah reward you immensely for it, and make it a source of benefit for others.
while i was reading the other sisters comments, i realized the umm aasiyah has the exact questions in her mind that i do. subhan Allah, i was wondering if you could send me a copy of your reply to her, or maybe she can send it directly to me. a mother of 4 little ones masha’Allah, not very spaced out, i feel home-schooling would be a difficult option for both me and the kids. so alhamdulILLah Allah was merciful to us, and we have started an educational endeavour in our masjid. every day is a struggle, but we know that the life of a muslim is a struggle. anyway, keep up the good work. remember us in your dua’s.
take care.
your sister in Islam,
umm arwa
wassalamu aalikum warahmatULLahi wabarakatuhu
As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatuAllahi wa barakatuh!
Hehe, that makes three of us! If it’s possible could you please email it to me as well?
baarak Allah feeki.
JazakAllah khair sisters for your du’as.
InshaAllah I don’t mind helping out other mothers with advice and setting up a schedule for their children. If there is something specific I don’t feel comfortable posting here, inshaAllah I will email you directly.
Umm Aasiyah, 6 year old is a perfect age to start. I advice you start teaching her 30th juz formally now. And although a ‘formal’ teacher is better but not must.
Sister Umm Aasiyah, my daughter is taking online classes for Arabic from Egypt:
arabicinegypt.com
It is an excellent program and it is totally worth spending money for. They offer 12 levels, Reem has 2 more levels to go inshaAllah. She can fluently speak Arabic walhamdullilah now. Of course, she has a little vocabulary barrier, but that is because her vocabulary is limited in general, both in Arabic & English (Urdu…AH don’t even ask!)
But I recommend this unless you can find someone in your area to teach your child Arabic, if you do please make sure that he/she doesn’t communicate with your child in English at all, otherwise that becomes a big barrier in learning Arabic!
Jazak Allah Khairan Ummreem for all that beneficial information. I would really like to discuss scheduling Quraan with you for Aasiyah. She has done 30th Juz but took almost a year to do so…I want to benefit from her early years
My kids have the same issues in Urdu, the younger ones dont even comprehend what I say…oh well!
I will check out the arabic program. Thats amazing masha’Allah that Reem is fluent.
ONce again may Allah bless you for sharing all this
salaam
Umm Aasiyah
Umm Aasiyah: YES, definitely do benefit from her early years. This is the time to memorize.
First few juz always take a long time. Once, she gets 5 juz done inshaAllah then it starts becoming easier…after 10 it will flow inshaAllah. But keep up with the revision. This is a mistake I made with my daughter, but I am following a totally different pattern with my son.
Those are the comments from people who don’t truly know the harms of public school and the harms of a bad islaamic school.
Would they say the same thing if one of us did something haram in the past but didn’t allow our children to?
This whole excuse of ‘socialization’ is really pathetic. Your children socialize with you at home. As parents, we don’t keep them locked in the house 24/7. We take them to visit family, to the masaajid, to shop and what not. They learn to deal with people and they learn to socialize from adults.
Sending them off to schools that may not even be that great to begin with, may harm them. Our children aren’t to be learning to socialize from children.
These aunties man. I tell you. I got it from them to when they asked me if I was going to enroll my son in Pre-K at the madrasah here for 3 year olds. It’s like even the age of children is getting younger and younger for school. I didn’t even go to kindergarten in my day and when I went to first grade, I didn’t even know english.
Anyways, if you are the Umm Reem from Houston, you are masha’Allaah doing a great job. If you are Reem’s mother, she’s masha’Allaah smart. She taught me a few things and even put me to shame in the few minutes we spoke, tabarak Allaah. : )
Umm Layth, JazakAllah khair for your kind words…
Hmm…and now I am curious to know who you are, cuz I am from Houston (just moved last year to DE)!
Assalamu’Alaikum All,
I thought ya’ll might enjoy this.
It has to do with comments people make towards homeschoolers.
The Dumbest Thing YOU Ever Heard, Part 1
by Mike Farris, Esq.
My recent column requesting “dumb statements” people had made regarding home schooling yielded a bumper crop of lols (laugh out loud) and a few rofls (rolling on the floor laughing). I got a great number of wonderful entries — far too many to publish. Today’s column is the first of two. Here are half of the top entries, this week’s winner, and my comments interspersed.
http://christianhomeschooling.us/articles/mikefarris2.html
Aslaam-alaikam Y’all
Thanks, Annette for sharing the dumb coments on homeschooling. I guess Reem and her Mom had a giggle too along with the rest of us.
Annette, jazakAllah khiar. That really was funny! And it makes me feel better that I am not the only one.
I have heard something similar to the ‘drug’ comments, i.e. expose them to evil so they learn how to resist it. And I must admit it was a very near-convincing argument.
And I have also heard the buying-school-supply excitement comment!
Assalamualikum warahamatullahi wabarakatahu
I was so impressed by your ambition and motivation. May Allah(SWT) accept all your efforts… Ameen. I wanted to ask you some advice for my older kids. My son has been memorizing Quran and used recite while he played but now that he is older I struggle to get him to sit to memorize. Do you have any suggestions that I can use to motivate him again? You mentioned that sons are different than daughters can you share your insights,please? May Allah reward you.. Ameen.
ummmaryam
Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
Ameen to your du’a.
Depending how old your son is (5 or above) then inshaAllah you can set a fixed schedule with him.
Firstly, you will have to be very organzied and regular.
* Initially fix 2 hours of study time. For instance, 10-12 everyday is study time. Make sure, that you don’t have any other thing to do during that time. No one is invited during this time, neither do you go anywhere, don’t even pick up the phone during that time. So the child realized the importance of ‘study’ time.
* Be consistent. Even if it is just 2 ayats, do it everyday.
* Make a chart for your son for daily memorization. When he finished each day’s lesson , he should earn something (either a point or a star or some money).
* For revision, if he is reviewing 30th juz for instance, make a chart with all Surah’s names and as he reviews each surah, put a star by the Surah’s name. And after a certain number of stars (like 10) get him a small gift.
In other words, set incentives for him.
But remember, sister, no matter how many incentives you give a child, in the end you have to use authority. You are the mother and he has to listen to you. If your child was going to school, you would force him to do his homework and memorize his spellings etc. No child like doing this stuff but they have to. Similarly, you will have to do the same for Qur’an memorization as well. Yes, we don’t want out children to NOT like doing Qur’an and that is why we set more incentives for him then usual.
- Encourage him a lot.
- Praise him, if you have other children then make him feel a little more special because he memorizes Qur’an.
- If, some days you have to force him more then usual, then later talk to him about it and explain to him the importance of memorizing Qur’an and how much you love him because of what he is doing.
- I sometimes use reverse psychology on him. When he has his ‘bad’ days then I simply tell him that he doesn’t have to memorize and he can just go to school and be a ‘regular’ child. My son doesn’t like that at all and instead start asking me, ‘don’t you want to see me in the *higest* jannah?!’
It works fine with him. But it is a constant and consistent thing
So don’t give up, inshaAllah the fruit will be very juicy of this time and effort that you invest in your child, inshaAllah.
And lastly and most importantly, don’t forget to make du’a. Every day, all the time, beg Allah azzawjal to help you and help your child and open his brain and heart to Allah’s Kalam.
Hope it helps.
Assalamulikum warahmatahullahi wabarakatahu
Jazak Allahu Khairin. Insha Allah I will make the intention and beg Allah for His Mercy and Help. I also wanted to ask you about the CIALS. You have your daughter registered in that. WHat is the requirement to get in? I am thinking of registering my son, insha Allah. I would appreciate some advice. MAy Allah(SWT) grant you success in the duniya and in the akhira… Ameen.
Assalamaualikum warahamatullahi wabarakatahu
ummmaryam
Wa alaikum assalam wa ramatullahi wa barakatuhu,
I don’t know their requirements, I know they test the child. Reem was in Egypt when she got registered there.
Maybe you can go to their website and send Br. AbulHakeem a question. He is very helpful.
I think it depends on how old your son is. Its been a very good program for Reem, walhamdullilah. and she started it when she was 7 or almost 8.
Assalamu alaikum!
Umm Reem, I’m not sure if you remember me; I met you a couple of times at Shaykh Majdy Wardah’s lectures in Delaware. I believe the last time was in Ramadan… then I went to Hajj/Egypt, etc. and now I’m due to have my baby any day now insha Allah! I’m the Egyptian sister from Philly who wears the niqaab.
Anyways, not sure if my husband invited your husband yet to the ‘aqeeqah (of course, we can’t tell when it will be just yet, obviously), but I’d like to see you and Reem there insha Allah. It’ll most likely be in Philly.
Also, I’m sure you could offer me some advice on teaching my child Qur’an, etc. We plan to make hijrah insha Allah but only Allah knows when or if that will happen, so I need to be prepared to raise my children here in America.
My email is ummeesa @ yahoo . com, feel free to email me anytime and I’ll give you my number.
Keep us in your duaa’, barrak Allahu feekum.
Wassalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu.
Umm Eesa, wa alaikum assalam. Of course, I remember you. I will email you inshaAllah.
As salaamu alaiykum-
My only dilemma with homeschooling is that I can only give them what I have! As a former public schooler (and former teacher at Islamic school) I’ve spent alot of time an effort filling gaps that my education left…but do not feel comfortable with my ability to give them what they need through high school (especially in math and the sciences).
Outside (supplementary) tutors are an option but cost-prohibitive for most people. I do not discourage people from thinking creatively about giving the best to their children…just be realistic about your own limitations.
Whatever you do, be honest with yourself! Sometimes I feel a tremendous amount of pressure from other Muslim mommies who applaud homeschooling and make others feel guilty (it is almost like a fad these days) for putting their children in school. SubhanaAllah, several of mydie-hard homeschooling associates will try to call you and talk on the phone for several hours everyday and hang out at your house for long periods of time (just to get a sanity break). Again, this is not a blanket condemnation of everyone who makes a decision to take on the additional responsibility of formally educating their child at home – I just wanted to encourages sisters to feel good about be realistic.
Ten Signs that Homeschooling is NOT for you:
10. You have a very weak educational background (college degree preferred)
9. While looking at the homeschooling curriculum you feel intimidated and say “they don’t really need this…or this”
8. You look for visitors, errands and appointments to attend to when you’ve stayed at home several mornings in a row.
7. Your children do not listen to or obey most of your instructions.
6. Your husband is fundamentally against the idea and criticizes rather than supports your efforts toward homeschooling.
5. You want to homeschool because your children have a learning or behavioral disability that you cannot bring yourself to get help for.
4. You are a terribly disorganized person who thrives off of spontaneous actions and constant “outside fulfillment”
3. You don’t really enjoy your children’s company. In fact, you never really wanted so many…you just woke up one morning and were surrounded by kids!
2. You feel overwhelmed and stressed all of the time, such that you just can’t seem to get it all together.
AND THE NUMBER ONE REASON NOT TO HOMESCHOOL IS:
1. If you honestly know what you are not giving your children, your husband or your Lord the rights due because you just aren’t Superwoman!
Again – this isn’t meant as criticism, just food for thought. Note: At least eight of these apply to me! *smiles*
Wow! So many typos in my last post…how do you edit blog posts?
Umm Aziza, it is true…homeschooling is not for everyone. And I totally agree with you that those who do homeschool must not judge those who choose not to do so. Everyone has their own views and reasons.
Typos…don’t worry about ‘em.
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